Expectation Is Proportional to Happiness

The first question that should have struck your head is which proportionality are you talking about.

Is it direct or is it inverse. Today let’s decipher this proportionality.

You would have come across people who expect very less in their life still they get more, more than their expectations and they are happy with it. Do they really expect less ? No, I don’t think so. Then, Why they look happy ? Are they pretending to look happy ? No, some are actually happy. I call these people are having ExIH attitude(just to define them). The big question is How they are happy? Let me explain this with an example.

Consider school or college going students. They give exams and after that they expect some marks.

Either expectations are higher or are lower. But you will notice that students having ExIH attitude will always expect lower. They know somewhere that they will not get less marks still they will expect less. The reason to that is very simple, they are basically playing with their brain. They are deceiving their brain. They are expecting less because if they get more, they will become happy and if they get what they expected then they will easily accept it. This is profit-profit approach of living life. No matter whatever happens, they are happy.

Now you must be getting confused, then why people say of dreaming big? Actually, there is a difference between aspiring and expecting. Yes, these two terms are sometimes used interchangeably but there is a difference. Aspirations are virtual while expectations are real. Again take example of a student, before exams every student aspires of good marks but after giving exams his/her aspirations turns into expectations. To explain this, take an example of a paper of 100 marks. Before giving paper he/she was aspiring 96 or more than that, after giving paper now he/she is expecting near 80 but in reality he/she gets somewhere around 70 and now he/she is unhappy. What do you think that needs to be changed? I think the only thing that needs to be changed is expectation. If that student would have lowered the threshold of happiness i.e. expected lower than what he/she really expected, would have sorted the things. This is what you have to do with life. This is how you have to deal with real life situations.

Now you would have understood the gist of my blog. I am saying expect lower than what you are really expecting, deceive your brain and convince it that you were expecting lower and then if you get higher or even near your fake expectations then you will be happy. Try this, you will surely get good results. Live your life like a win-win situation not like a win-lose situation. Aspirations should be high but expectations low.

So, I came to the conclusion that expectations are inversely proportional to happiness. Expect lower, be more happy.

(If you have different opinion, then you can definitely tell me in the comments section.)